Children with social phobia are not just a little "shy," rather they are painfully uncomfortable in any situation where they could be embarrassed or feel they are being evaluated. They may see these threats even in relatively safe situations. These children often wish they had more friends but find it hard to do the things that are required to make new friends or maintain these'friendships. Often time adolescents will say they like being alone and don't need friends. For some kids it's better not to know than take the risk they will be rejected.
Children with social anxiety appear uncomfortable and may choose to withdraw or not talk to prevent the risk of embarrassment. They are often successful at being invisible, in that while they may not actually incur the social rejection that they fear, they may be unnoticed by their peers and have a socially neglected status because of their voluntary isolation, (eating lunch in the bathroom or alone at a table, avoiding recess by going to the library or helping the teacher).
The treatment focus for Social Phobia is similar to GAD with focus on addressing physical symptoms, identifying anxious thoughts and development of coping thoughts, and problem solving. Children learn that the worry voice is a disruptive internal critic, by devaluing that voice and "firing the judge," they can learn to turn attention away from self and toward others and focus on the task rather than who is watching. The early in vivo experiences may be smiling and making eye contact with a familiar peer, later making a phone call to a peer to invite them over, and moving up to giving a presentation in front of others.
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